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Friday, March 28, 2014

How can I get my gay boyfriend back after all I've done!?

How can I get my gay boyfriend back after all I've done!?
Here is my story, I am a white guy, 25 years old from LA, I am gay and since I am rather a good looking guy temptation was always there and it was just so easy to cheat.... The problem is that I was in a relationship with this foreign exchange student from Columbia, this guy left everything for me, he didn't even return to his country just so he could stay with me..... he loved me a lot and I took him for granted, yes I loved him but I just couldn't stop partying and cheating with other guys. He used to suffer a lot because he wanted something serious, something stable, not the typical gay relationship where promiscuity is the norm! I became infected with HPV (genital warts) from this surfer dude I was dating while in the relationship with my boyfriend and infected my boyfriend..... this was the drop that filled the cup, he sent me to hell and very heart broken went back to columbia, he promised to never come back to the states because he wanted to stay away from me. at the time, I was like whatever..... two years have passed and honestly I CAN NOT... I repeat, I CAN NOT forget him... I think about him everyday and I wonder what he's doing, or where he is now... I eventually found him on facebook and created a fake profile so I could see his pictures and be on his friend's list, when I saw his pic I felt like I would die without him, honestly I don't give a damn about this useless dudes around here..... this columbian dude made feel something I never felt... the emotions, the deep feelings, the amazing moments he gave me I can not get from any one else time have passed and he is now in colombia, apparently happy I had the courage to tell him that I am that fake profile who added him and I can not forget him, when I was telling him this I broke up in tears and he told me it's all forgotten and in the past, he told me I am a bit late and he suffered a lot, however he had no grudges against me, but the whole gay promiscuous relationship is just not him..... I told him I am not doing it anymore I was dumb and didn't know what I had until I lost it and his reply was that he feels honored but honestly he rather put all this in the past and move on in life as he doesn't have any more feelings for me after two years of crying. I feel like I lost the best thing I had! I keep meeting guys but they suck, they have no soul, no spice, they lack the passion he had, the connection I had with him. Any tips on how to get him back? should I just forget about him? I am becoming obsessed with him.
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered - 15 Answers
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In my opinion, you should leave him alone. Wish him well, stay in touch with him online only, tell him "happy birthday" when its his birthday, etc, but other than that, leave him alone. Your obsession sounds like it is coming from a narcissistic place - wanting what you know you cannot have. You should probably talk to a professional about why you want him so much. There are lots of other guys here in the states who want stable monogamous relationships, but you have yourself convinced that there are not.
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Each time you feel that, grab a hammer and hit your bells. Eventually, that will help you Are you going to write that novel ?
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guy, you might as well suck it up, learn from your mistake, and move on..there is no way that he is going to open up that womb again.we all make mistakes in life, and think we don;t end up paying, even thought he forgave you, and he is a real man to do that, he moved on. remember the good times, and what he stood for, and try to lift yourself up to that level in the next relationship//that one has expired! sorry to say..it will make you a better person..let the guy live his life.you owe him that much
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Well, emm, I was raised in colombia, and where we come from things like that would get you killed or at least in the hospital. I think that you completly blew it, and just be friends with him, because you already hurt him too much and you just can't fix it by loving him. What's done is done, move on and leave him alone
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Well, it is very bad what you did.. In your case, it's like you never knew what you had until you lost it. It's kinda tricky, but if you really want him back maybe you should keep on telling him how much you miss him. Be completely sure that the whole promiscuous thing is over.. If you get back with him and start sleeping around again, you will probably be out of chances. Be sure, tell him that you're done and that you only want him. Ask him if he still has feelings for you. Express your feelings for him.. Maybe you're lucky. But a thing like that is very hard to get over. Perhaps he hasn't forgotten it completely yet. Cheating is bad.. But you could still try.
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please forget that guy he's a she and that you should never forget . Forget and cut that feeling lest you fall on the wrong lane. We do not curse him we just let him go... the way he wanted to be ... put that unnecessary feeling now . Stand up and be as a woman as you are that deserved a man... a man.... like.... Me. uhum...pls.
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Lovely diatribe, and a nice work of fiction. In your other posts, you claim to be 32 years old, and another you stated that you have lived with a women for 2 and a half years. Nice try....
8 :
Time to let go and move on with your life. You had your chance with him and blew it. He has told you that he has moved on and made a life for himself, so get over him. As the saying goes you don't know what you got til it's gone.
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If the facts you related are real then long story short: No. Let go. Cherish the memory and move along. I have similar tales in my life and I've learned that once he leaves its over. He might still be friendly but never companion again.
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OK well. I agree with what your ex said and did. You knew he was suffering and wouldn't change your ways then and it pushed him over the edge. Now, you must face the consequence and move on because quite truthfully it doesn't sound like he's coming back. Two years to run after someone is enough time for them to move on and become happy again. You're not getting him back because of what YOU did and how you wouldn't do what (in my opinion) is an important role in relationships: sacrifice. Learn from your mistakes and move on, he did with you.
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People never learn until they actually experience something. Just treat this as a life lesson to prevent the same thing from happening in the future. In times, you'll meet someone else who will make you feel special all over again; and when that happens, you already know what to do, not like the first one. As he said, it was the past, let it go, move on. If he found the courage to get through it when he was more hurt than you, then you can too.
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you suck at telling jokes im just kidding, i really just don't know what say but feel like i really should say SOMETHING
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You payed him wrong... You not only cheated on him but gave him warts, thank the good lord it wasn't something worse. You should take time off and think about what you want in life. Living a promiscuous unsafe lifestyle or having a normal happy life with someone you love.
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Yeah. You should probably move on. First of all, you cannot make the person that have no feelings for you to love you again. Second of all, your obsession with him only is going to discourage him further away from you. Third of all, you are too late. Two years after...I mean, gosh. Should have thought about it earlier. ANyway, if you really want him, ask him once more for the last time. IF he doesn't show any interest, forget about making plans again and drop it. However, you still can be friends with him if you want.
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It sounds like you are deeply in love with him, and he is not in love with you, anymore. It might sound crazy, but you have got to talk to him one last time before completely cut off the relationship. Why don't you ask him to web chat with you, or better yet, take a trip to Columbia. Then you can tell him your feeling, but it must not be all about what YOU need; what YOU want. It must be about how he feels about you. If he still have feeling about you, then ask him if he would willing to give you one more try. If he doesn't, then you must move on. It will hard, cold, lonely, and sad. Tears will always fall when the thought of him come up. But that's life. Do know that a soul mate is very hard to find, but a boyfriend is a dime a dozen. But who knows, hopefully he will give you one more try.

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Friday, March 14, 2014

I'm confused about my future...?...?

I'm confused about my future...?...?
I'm an Indian 10th grade student. I live in Dubai. My personal choice for my future is to be a psychiatrist but my dad wants me to go for finance. There is a lot of scope in that line for jobs, agreed. But I'm not interested. What should I do about that? Also, my dad, mom and I have a PR of Canada but I have a 5 month old sister who isn't getting. If I have to continue my education in Canada, I want to go with my entire family. But then, even if I do get to Canada, I will have to repeat a year due to my age. I just turned 14 last Sunday. Even being in Canada, I need to know some good colleges and universities. I was thinking University of British Colombia but the fact remains that these places are quite expensive and I don't want to financially strain my parents. (We come from a middle-class Indian family). So if I plan to continue my education in India, there is lots of competition. I won't be able to get in on merits because even though I am a topper here, there are people much more talented than me in India. So dad will have to bribe. I also don't want to go to private college because i) They take a lot of "official donations" and ii) I'm not even confident about the quality of education or the value of the degree. I don't know what to do and my board exams are in March, 2012. Help, fast! Thanks.
Other - Education - 5 Answers
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Indian,huh? You could be a rain dancer!
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girl try and talk to your dad.cause i belief you have to go where your interest is.
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Well u need to let ur parents know that its ur life and decision about ur future ..u should choose wat u like not wat they like cuz then in ur future u wont be success full at all! The 2 majors u have provided r both great but completely different so think and research about it. If u come to Canada u have a higher chance in education i can provide u very good universities in Canada and Dubai. You r still gr 10 u have 2 years to think. Which school do u go to in dubai? hope it helps! Good luck!
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better go to india and get admission in a medical school so you become a psychiatrist.
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If you don't do what you're interested in, you won't be any good at it. UBC is a good college. Bribery is despicable.

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Friday, March 7, 2014

Is Marijuana going to ruin my life again?

Is Marijuana going to ruin my life again?
Hello everyone. I quit smoking marijuana a little over two months ago and have not picked up a pipe since. However, I left the drug behind out of pure circumstance. My life was not going well. I had just gotten out of a terrible relationship where my self-esteem was left hanging by a string, and I had ultimately been used under my nose by a rotten girl for around 10 months. My aunt presented me with the opportunity to live in Bogota, Colombia with my family to get away from things until January 2010. I had taken more than a year away from my studies, which previously were at ASU, and I needed to get back on track. I took advantage of the opportunity and I was on a plane the next week. I smoked a joint of Pineapple Kush the night before the flight. Until two months ago, I was an every day pot smoker. Actually, until two months ago, I was a pot dealer/occasionally other stuff dealer. Everyone I know and all of my friends are either drug dealers, or drug users. I'm talking about a very large circle of friends that I ended up becoming very popular with because... well... I was their hookup and smoke-bro most of the time. Even when I wasn't slanging buds, I was smoking chronic every day for pretty much free, shrooming on weekends sometimes, and drinking in excess at times. To be perfectly honest, I really liked drugs. I've dropped acid around 6 or seven times and dropped extacy various times as well. I've been totally sober here in Bogota for a little over two months, and I'm seeing my life completely differently. Before I left, I purchased a book called The Success Principles, by Jack Canfield in the wake of my turbulent relationship's end. I've read it three times through now and it has really shown me that I am worth more than the life I previously created for myself, and that it is my personal obligation to avoid the things in my life that are going to take me away from success, health and general well-being. The Dilemma. My mom called the other night and told me she would like me to start squaring away the student loans and financial aid paperwork so that I could start in the august semester. Since I got here, I've somewhat communicated with my old circle of friends through AIM and MSN. I've gotten pictures and videos from them saying "What's up man! We miss you bro! Here's to you dog! *toke* *toke* *bong rip*" I'm not saying I don't appreciate it, but I left the US to get away from that and find what was right for me, and now I'm going back early and I have doubts. My doubts are: "Am I going right back to where I came from"? "Will all this be for nothing"? Sometimes, I sit at night and think "I would give anything to get high off some bomb chronic right now. Even a few vicodin and a few beers would do the trick". I want to be sure that I have the stength to say "I'm sorry I just can't do this anymore, I have to focus on school and my degree" before I return. I just don't know if I have it yet. Honestly, I'm worried. I know what some of these answers are going to look like, and I know I'm going to be told that I have to detatch myself from the negative influences I had before, and I'm trying hard to accept that, although it's happening slowly. I know that if I had never gone out into that field with my best friend when I was 18 and smoked those two grams of chronic he got for the first time, I would be in a totally different place today. I might have my degree already or have landed a solid job with some financial firm like I always wanted. I am hoping someone out there has had a somewhat similar experience so that I don't have to invent a wheel here. I hope someone can give me some advice on what I can do to lose my urge to smoke and be ready to take on life when I get back to the States. I know this story might be a little out of order and filled with holes, but I appreciate anyone who answers for trying to help out. Edit: I just wanted to add that I'm not against the use of marijuana, but it has caused it's problems in my life (socially more than anything) and lead to other things for me. I know there are people out there who successfully self-medicate regularly and have not experienced the same problems. Thank you for your input.
Other - Health - 3 Answers
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udde trees are the way to go dont let nothign stop you from doing what you do being you ight u want bud u do bud dnt let shit take control of that mannn
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yes
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NO dont listen to them fagggggettsss pot ruined my life i dont feel the same anymore and i wish i neve smoked before its stupid my dad could of joined the yankees base ball team bu he shose to smoke pot

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Saturday, March 1, 2014

How is gang life in London,England from New York City?

How is gang life in London,England from New York City?
I am from New York City,and your average Puerto Rican American.I lived in New York City all my life,but then Ive did some research about London,England and how 300.000 Americans were moving their,because 1 hundred years ago many people from England moved to the USA,and now Americans are moving to England. Ive been around the worst gangs in American,but some girl who is a student in New York that is from London,told me that gangs in London is worst than the gangs in New York. I'm not saying their are no gangs in London,but it can't be worst than New York,because the whole country has gangs and metric tons of drugs traffic in and out the country everyday from Colombia thru the Mexiccan boarder and on to the streets of America. I would like to move to London,Ive always liked reading about London,but I just can't believe that the ghettos in London are far more worst than American ghettos. Like a true American I don't drink tea,I drink coffee,I only drink tea in the winter.Adios for now
London - 2 Answers
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American gangs are more dangerous because of the Gun culture in America.. In England the possession of a firearm is not taken lightly by the law ...The gangs are dangerous but not as bad as American Gangs.. Every day of the week in America a person is shot or murdered by Gangs, you wont see that in England ..It happens but its less likely...
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We have had a spate of knife crime over 21 Kids have been killed this year alone.It's bad right now.It is produced from ignorance and fear.This kids need love especially of a father,I was threatened today on the train which is very rare.The kids have gone a bit mad now because they are out of control and just out of school.We all need to play our part somehow to help these kids even if it's saying murder is wrong.I used to be afraid of attack when I moved in last year but once you get to know people it is much better.

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Friday, February 28, 2014

What georgia colleges allow illegal aliens to attend?

What georgia colleges allow illegal aliens to attend?
If you are going to answer this question saying go back to your country or make a stupid ignorant response similar than that then please disregard my question because i feel that you can take your opinion and shove it. now my question has to do with my boyfriend who is about to lose his visa because he is about to turn 21 and is getting phased out of his visa. unlike popular belief not all people run across the border. ignorant people seem to believe that every hispanic is a mexican who crossed the border in some illegal fashion. well realistically he moved here in high school and due to his parents applying for residency late he will not be able to recieve his green card because once you turn 21 you are no longer considered part of the family and his dad's visa which he has lived off of for 4 years no longer applies to him. now he wants to go to college and after trying to apply for the student F1 visa he found out that he does not meet the requirements for the visa and is left with no more options. he has nothing left in colombia. his whole family is here in Georgia. so now we have looked into the DREAM act which allows illegal aliens to attend college in the united states. my question is what colleges in georgia allow illegal aliens to attend? are there any that allow them to pay in state tuition? and finally what is the process of doing all of this? thanks for any helpful responses. he cant apply for citizenship...you have to be a resident before you become a citizen..and after receiving your green card you have to wait at least 3 years before you can even apply and take the test to become citizen. his family is still in the process of becoming residents.
Higher Education (University +) - 1 Answers
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If his dad has lived here for 4 years, can't he apply for citizenship via the naturalization process in only 1 more year? The first step after all is to live in the states for 5 years.

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Friday, February 14, 2014

Overprotective parents?

Overprotective parents?
Ok. I moved from Colombia to NYC last year to go to college. Everything is going great so far. I met a guy, fell in love and we've been dating for 5 months now. However, my parents (dad) are EXTREMELY overprotective of me. They let me come to NYC but now my dad hates the fact that Im dating a guy just because school should be my first and ONLY priority. What he doesn't understand is that dating this guy is not interfering with my studies whatsoever. If anything it's actually making me improve my grades. My dad doesn't understand this and says he's too old for me (6 year difference, which is the same difference that my dad and mom have between each other) and how he's not worth it or so and he disapproves of my relationship. I told him I am sorry he felt that way but he can't changed the fact that I love this guy. My dad threatened me to take me home with them and continue my studies there, if my grades fall. They are not bad and he just wont think of it in that way. He says I should have A's instead of B's. I was NEVER an A+ student and I will never be, but my dad can't accept that I am not the superstar he wants me to be. I want to not depend on their money but I can't work in the US if I don't get a working visa. What should I do? Should I "run" away from home and stay here in NY, look for a job and forget about them? Or what?
Family - 1 Answers
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i know how over protective parents are and i think you should just stand up to your dad and tell him that you will never be as perfect as he wants you to be. tell him you love your bf and make him understand that age doesnt matter. if he gets mad what can he do? spank you? put you in time out? you are too old for that kind of stuff.

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Friday, February 7, 2014

Can I get into SUNY, NYU, Cornell or any other good universities?

Can I get into SUNY, NYU, Cornell or any other good universities?
I am a polytechnic student and I have a GPA of 2.83, 2.44, 2.56 and 2.6 until now! From Electronics and Communication I plan to Get at least 3.7 this semester. However this will bring my Overall GPA to just 2.89. I will be sending this semester's GPA in the mid Year report. I know I have potential but I just messed up everything with video games and friends. I have about 5 extracurriculars like community service, volunteer work, Literature publication, Music recording and theater. I can even have 3.8 in the final semester. can I get in to any of the universities? Please be specific and give reasons. I want to pursue engineering in Computer Science. Also, I have decent SAT scores. over 2230 in Reasoning and 680 to 730 in 3 SAT-II's. NYU SUNY CORNELL WSU CALTECH NJIT PSU Princeton University of Maryland Colombia Also please suggest some universities that I can get into with the above scores. Something that is better than these..
Higher Education (University +) - 1 Answers
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Are you still in high school or are you wanting to transfer from one college to another? With your GPA, NYU, CalTech, Princeton, Cornell and Columbia are not realistic. Don't know what WSU you're referring to, but it's probably going to be difficult to get into any out-of-state college with those grades. You should be able to get into one of the lower- or middle-tier SUNYs, however. If you're still in high school, your best bet may be to go to community college, be serious about your work, get high marks and then transfer to a four-year college

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