can you help me, am I a whore? please help me I am scared, confused, suicidal even!!!?
I am a 23 year old woman from Colombia........ I am a foreign exchange student in the US and my host family opened their arms to me. they are a married couple, typical all white suburbia family, they have a 4 year old son and the wife 29 y/o is a stay at home mom, the dad 30 y/o works in a law firm. I have been with them 4 months and two weeks after I got here I couldnt help but noticing that the husband would always look at me in a very different manner...... with like a lot of passion even when the wife was there one time the wife was in her mom's house and I got from school and he was in his towel, he just got outta the shower and he was so sexy after that time I felt for him and we've been having a secret relationship. I am sorry , I know is bad but I love him..... I never thought I would fall in love with a white guy...... I love his voice, his hands, his body, I love when we're together and he makes love to me and I dont care about anything, his blue eyes are my heaven. we have talked about his wife and he says he doesnt love her he just married her because it was his highschool sweetheart and tonight he proposed me to escape with him and go to canada and then to europe, he claims he has enough money what should I do?
Marriage & Divorce - 51 Answers
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1 :
go for it not your fault just make sure hes serious and thats what you want
2 :
I really don't think either of you are being fair to wife or the son.
3 :
just go ...nothing else we could say , what done is done...
4 :
Only you can answer that question, it will destroy his family though, keep that in mind before you do anything
5 :
Well I think he should divorce his wife....poor thing....and you can go be with him. But if he did that to his wife.....then he will do it to you too...It won't be all perfect....
6 :
Yes you are a wh-re. Go back to Columbia. Don't be a homewrecking sl-t.
7 :
Get sober! Quite down there in the peanut gallery! I have NEVER met a whore who was not addicted to drugs or alcohol! Believe me all, I know plenty of whores. It comes with the job. Anyway...back to you... You need to get into a 12 step program, with a sponsor, and get sober! You whole life hinges on your sobriety!
8 :
retard
9 :
OMGG!!! dont run away with him thats ridculous, he has a wife that thinks he loves her and a baby boy, My ada left witha nother women and it broke my heart!!!! and my mum wouldnt stop crying! please please dont hurt the women and her baby BOY!!! PLEASE! dont doo it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
10 :
You better go with him... you two have already screwed up the marriage. However, don't be surprised if he leaves you to be with his wife again.. or another woman. Men like this are FULL of empty promises.. no matter HOW much you think they love you.
11 :
Suicidal? Don't worry, I think the wife will kill you. Can't wait for Karma!
12 :
He is going to screw you over the way he has screwed his wife over, we have a little thing called KARMA and she is going to be gunning for you. End the relationship and save yourself some grief down the road. Or hey wasn't suicide a option?
13 :
Get out of there. that is your host ftamily... What were you thinking? He has a wife and 4 year old son? And you want to ruin his wife and sons life? Your are not a whore but obviously very selfish... If this man did not love his wife and wanted to leave he would of left with or without you, trust me my father did the same. And think about this, If he was having an affair with you whilst with a wife and child, what do you think he wont do the same to you? come on girl your living in a dream world.
14 :
Dummy....his wife is his LOVE...his high school sweetheart...you, my dear, are just a piece of @ss.
15 :
This woman has opened her home to you and you repay her by sleeping with her husband?? I'm not sure how you do it in COLOMBIA, but that makes you both adulterers. He's a jerk who should have never come on to you - but you should have turned him down. They have a child - and the two of you are just gonna run off. Where does that leave his 4 yr old son - and his poor wife? If he cheated on her - he'll cheat on you...GUARANTEED. You'll be as replaceable as she is! More than likely, he'll never leave his wife, not as long as the both of you are there putting out!
16 :
Technically no, but what if you were the other woman. Karmas a bitch! I think you did wrong!
17 :
First, you are not a whore. You just feel in love with a married man. It happens. Second, if doesn't love his wife, then why is he still with her? If you hadn't came along would he still want to leave or is he using you as an excuse to get out? Why Canada and Europe? Why can't he just leave his wife and stay where he is? What about his son and job? Think about all this before you do anything. Don't let him fill your head with empty promises.
18 :
Sounds like you've already made your mind up! Be very aware of the repercussion's that WILL occur! He will be found out, and there will be 'fireworks', that I can guarantee you!
19 :
no way hun. don't go to canada or europe or anywhere too far away, because that's just bad news, and if he's still married to his wife, tell him that you two need to keep your cool while you're there and he's still married. you have to put yourself in his wife's situation, and think about what would happen if she found out? if it was you i'm sure you would just be devastated. he's also way too old for you, i mean i know that alot of women are attracted to older men, but he's just too far out there. who knows, this could even be a life and death situation if his wife found out, and you don't know his whole life story either. be careful.
20 :
Why not go all the way, you already cheated with him.
21 :
You should be scared. What don't you start by making good decision.
22 :
you dont have to do anything, it will all blow up soon enough..you have to remember,the wife is going to get everything....you two jackasses wrecked a home...high school sweet hearts, my butt.its a comfort zone,and he is out of bounds
23 :
Call your parents and tell them what happened and that you need to come home. Trust me..this is lust NOT love. Get out of the situation before any more harm is done.
24 :
You are not a whore stuff like this happens but the main thing you need to remeber if he cheated on his wife he will probably cheat on you too.
25 :
He has fallen out of love with her and has feelings for you. It would be wise to wait for his other child to come home from Colombia or where ever this child is at, since you say your a foreign exchange student, and then you go home and forget the whole mess. I don't think your a whore but you need better judgment, what a mess to be involved in especially since your in a foreign country. Its all up to you really, what do you want to do and can you live with the consequences?
26 :
To answer your question; Yes! Yes, you are. Get out of that house, you home wrecker. Either go back to your country or find somewhere else to live. And let it not be another family you can ruin.
27 :
he will always be a part of her life they have a child together just rember that he did it to her he will do it to you.... good luck your going to need it cause if i was his wife i would hunt you down like a dog....
28 :
its not easy being in love with someone. especially when you feel that passion between the two of you. there is nothing wrong with you. you are following your heart. He needs to make a decision- you or his wife - he needs to tell her asap - and then live his life with you - make sure he is serious - if he really is ...hed tell his wife right away and chose you. I know its not fair - but its better to be honest...trust me he needs to be open and honest with his wife - this way he would get the problem off his shoulder and be fair to everyone
29 :
First, don't kill yourself. You made a mistake falling in love with a married man. You might want to leave that situation. If this was a single man, it wouldn't be a problem. He's the one that cheated on his wife, but you're not making it any easier. Leave as soon as you can.
30 :
Feel ashamed and go home and forget about him.
31 :
i believe you should move out and move on.its not fair to his wife and she also took you in.if you did leave with him,whoes to say in a year or two that he want do the same to you.dont let him use you as a scapegoat to get out of his mairrage.there is a real man out there that will love you/protect you/and give you the world if he could and never cheat on you.
32 :
Love is strong girl butif you go away with him he is just going to do the same to you what he did to his wife Then you'll be hurt What goes around comes around Yes you will always love him but you have tobe strong and find a man who love you and not keep you as a side line chick
33 :
he leave u too once he has had enough of u. high school sweetheart or not he married her cuz he loved her. he can say he loves u know but chances are in a few years he'll do the same to u.
34 :
Firstly ..tell yourself you are not a whore...because you are not.......think about it, are you charging him for the sex...? Also tell yourself he is a liar because he is....he tells you he doesnt love his wife to make you think you have a chance with him...to keep you there to have sex with....dont be taken in by this...get out of there real quick...and take the good feelings of how you felt with you...they are yours to keep...throw out the bad ones... Dont put yourself down....the nice feelings and pleasure you have felt are not bad things...only the way you think about them can make it bad... you are not a bad person because you had sex with a married man....he is in a position of power here...its his house and he is taking advantage of you.... Dont let this experience suck you into thinking its the real deal....he is not doing you any favours by having sex with you....and you are not doing yourself any favours by thinking he is or by continuing it, or by believing anything he is telling you....he is lying to his wife, family, friends and everyone around him by having sex with you....dont be fooled... leave...
35 :
You call yourself a 23yr old woman..haha women like you are worth sh!t to me..scared confused and even suicidal...awwwwee... yeah do society a favor!! Hope she finds out and take her asss hole husband for what is worth..you know what? ..then you probably be the one supporting him him..B/C he won't have a damn dime to support you! What goes around goes around and come back and bite you right on the assssssss...I hope you and him pay for what you both are doing...you lucky you aren't on my territory..enough said! grrrrrrrrr
36 :
yes that is wrong think about would u want that done to u plus ur still young and fresh to da country think about it if u didnt meet them would he have stayed with his wife then again he probably would of meet someone else see u have to be careful cause he knows ur situation and u seem volunerable to him u have to be strong and yes i wouldnt call u a whore but how do u feel inside apparently u dont feel whole cuz u wouldnt ? it wake up boo boo this is america
37 :
once a cheater always a cheater. as soon as something younger and better comes along, he'll leave you that is if he even leaves his wife.
38 :
To answer your original question: Yes, you are a whore. You are a home wrecker and thanks to you his kids will not have a dad, anymore. Oh, yeah, and he'll leave you, too, as soon as another younger piece comes around. Congratulations.
39 :
you only live once honey. Are you SURE your in love with him??? NOT lust???
40 :
yeah, you're a whore. you knew he was married and you f*cked him anyway. bad bad girl.
41 :
You have fallen for the oldest line in the book ( I DON'T LOVE MY WIFE) Isn't it funny how every single husband uses the same line and it's still working on dumb little girls like you. Do you really think he is going to run off with you and leave everything he loves. The only thing he loves about you is the fact that your different and younger then his wife.Make no mistake you will wear off and when you do he will make sure you are out of his house faster then you can open your legs.Your mother would be so ashamed if she knew what you were doing to this family who took you in. I hope someday someone like you comes into your life and sleeps with your husband then and only then will you know the kind of heart break you are going to cause his poor wife who did nothing to you but be your friend.With friends like you who needs enemies.
42 :
his eyes r ur heaven...but his manhood is sending u to hell
43 :
Something built on a lie will never last
44 :
Sweetie, you should get the heck out of there as soon as possible. It's a bad situation if the mom finds out what's going on. If you really love him and want to leave with him then move out and let him deal with his situation. After that you can be with him.
45 :
wow. he'll cheat on you eventually. and what about his son? do either of you think of what is best for him? you deserve eachother, for sure, but wife and son deserve so much better.
46 :
No, you are not a wh*re but you are a naughty naughty girl.
47 :
If I were you, I would definitely get out of there away from him and that situation! He is a total jerk for treating his wife and son that way. He would probably do the same to you eventually! You don't really know this guy and are just loving him because of the sex. Sex is an instant way of intimacy between two people, but should never be the only factor in deciding to be with someone! How well does he know you? Does he know all of your favorite things? Does he know what you want to do with your future? Does he know what makes you mad? He probably doesn't and doesn't care either. He just likes the sex. He married his wife for a reason, not because she was his high school sweetheart but because he loved her. He's probably gotten in a rut and then you come along and he's taken advantage of the situation and of you. You need to take care of yourself and find someone who is going to be your best friend to be in love with, not a married guy who is doing you behind his wife's back! Open your eyes!!!!
48 :
You should pack your bags and leave. wtf is this for real?
49 :
I think this a terrible situation for the wife. How is she going to feel when her husband walks out on her and their son? Does she love him? If so she will be devestated. And is he going to provide for them? You cannot help falling in love, but if you are going to run off with this man, I hope that he will have the decency not to leave his wife and child high and dry without anything. And I hope also that he is going to really commit himself to you and not dump you when he tires of you. I hope that he really does love you as much as you love him.
50 :
yes u are.. sad but true.. but u can return and fix it. leave him , he has a family he has children he has a wife who has only helped to you.just think if you were that woman , what would you think about tht ??.
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